Анна Шиман
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- Which training or course should you attend so that it actually works and brings results?
- Where do you go, where do you turn in a world of information about personal growth and development, which everyone talks about but where people always doubt whether they have chosen the right path, centre, teacher or guru?
It is an interesting topic, and there are always plenty of doubts and questions around it. There is a lot of information, a lot of offers, and a lot of centres, schools and trainers too.
You would think we should be glad to have such a wide choice! The age of enlightenment has finally arrived and exposed the darkness of ignorance with its bright light! And that can be taken as a good sign, if you allow yourself not to know something and not to be ashamed of it. If you allow yourself to take the position of a student.
To put it briefly, trainings and various events, apart from systemic courses, can be roughly divided into two large groups:
- Events for a quick boost
- Events for qualitative change (as a rule, a systemic approach is present here).
When choosing one training or master class over another, a person relies on their goals, which will underlie the choice and motivate them to achieve. These goals are often not conscious, and so, just as often, they bring only a short-lived result (sometimes not the one wanted), or even disappointment. Psychologists see many cases in their practice where a conscious goal is blocked by unconscious blocks, fears and other, unknown saboteurs.
In the age of the internet and a great deal of free information, it is noticeable that mass events are often popular, many of them nominally paid or entirely free. And so are events that promise a fast and excellent result to everyone who does it “in one go” and by the template.
“Memento mori”, in short, well, you get the idea.
We are all used to fast! So changes too: “I’ll take two, wrap them up” and send them to us fast! We are paying money for this, by the way!(c)
So why are promises and promisers of quick wins so popular?
Let us take an example.
How does a person live, with their routine and their surroundings, where everything is familiar and clear? Perhaps their life does not quite suit them, perhaps somewhere they use strategies that are not very successful.
Their quality of life, attitudes and duties are not quite right for them. Yet improvements always require investment, effort and energy, and money, in the end!
For someone who has hit a dead end in life or caught a downturn, it is very hard to stop or make the 180-degree turn needed for qualitative change.
A stop is necessary in order to check against the map of life’s reality, to recognise the real state of affairs, analyse the current situation, learn the lessons and leave the past in the past. And to take into the future the useful experience gained in the stage you have gone through. Yet, as a rule, nobody intends to stop. Because stopping is even scarier than the social “bogeyman” of having no money, of failure, of starving to death (and that happens often too) and of judgement.
Where do you think depression comes from?
Depression is a necessary measure for those who cannot stop, driven as they are by enormous inner tension and fear. Depression is a period for careful reflection and analysis of your own reality. And a long-awaited rest for a frayed nervous system and for the “tired horse” your body has turned into, led on by an illusory bunch of carrots.
In the end we get the following situation: strength, energy, time and success are needed right now! And according to a strictly drawn-up list, at that (how many grams shall I weigh out?) But there is no time to stop, rethink, work out new strategies and ways of living. None “AT ALL”!
There is no time, because there is no such wish either. And no habit of thinking critically or planning long-term. And no new circle of people. And no support, and no system of action. None of that either!
So what is there?
There is a wish to believe the illusion that qualitative change can come from minimal investment (of time, energy, resources). And a belief that someone else (for example, a trainer, a psychologist, a fortune teller, a shaman or anyone other than you) knows better how you should live!
After all, he is already successful and you are not yet! So he is simply obliged to share the formula for success with you, since you are ready to pay! Anything so as not to stop and not to meet real reality.
Perhaps someone right now really needs to air out their brain and emotions, stretch and refresh their thoughts and have a great time out, charged up with group energy and the tick in the box “I am working on my personal development”. Motives vary.
And what then? After the ball and the lost slipper?
- Nobody has changed your surroundings, and they are not about to move to another country; what is more, they demandingly demand your investment.
- Strategically nothing has changed, which means the pleasant boost will fade over time, like the morning haze over the minibus taking you to work instead of a comfortable car.
- The longing for freedom is even stronger now: after all, you managed to touch the edge of someone else’s success! And the people around you irritate you even more with their lack of understanding and their primitiveness. After all, you have already climbed a step higher than them, since you have taken up personal growth.
“What should I do?” sings the talented Dima Monatik to us in a tender voice.
When you choose to grow, be honest in clarifying your true intentions and goals!
Tell quality apart from the crowd and from quantity, and give due respect to long-term prospects and projects!
And be sure to come to us for tools for growth and development at the Psyvision centre for systemic personal development.
Clarity to everyone!
We look forward to seeing you on our courses and programmes!
Anna Oleksandrivna Shyman, head of the Psyvision centre
