To hurry or not to hurry?

Анна Шиман 2 min read

Draft translation. This text was translated automatically and has not been proofread yet — if something reads oddly, it does.

The realities of our time push us to rush through life.

  • “Yes, it’s all clear now, let’s move on!” “So what is the right thing to do?”
  • “Please advise me, what should I do?”
    It is not enough to hear something new about yourself, not enough to become aware of it. There is also the stage of acceptance and observation, of assessing the result and drawing on the experience. And only after that is it possible to change something on the inside.
    Going deep inside yourself is always an easy process. However, it is worth remembering that there, inside, you will have to come face to face with something. Accept, understand and forgive. Lose, find, let go. Throw out and develop.
    Now that can be called serious work!

In classes and in consultations many questions come up, and one of them is:
How do I love myself?

Today’s answer:
the first thing to do is to open the door to your inner world not by “kicking it in”, but gently and carefully.
With curiosity and respect.
Second: accept the ways you show up, study them, observe them, trying to resist the temptation to “amputate” straight away, to throw out of yourself what you dislike or judge as unnecessary, what bothers and unsettles you.
For fans of “nitrous oxide” and “chip tuning” for their long-suffering personality, there is great news!
Slow and steady are signs of maturity, of the luxury of being yourself and the right to carry your individuality with dignity and love.
So I will leave a reminder here that “right now everything is perfectly fine with you and everything is happening as it should. Right now, here, from this point, you can take the first step towards your goal. And you have all the resources you need for it”

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See you soon!

Anna Shyman.

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